A lot of time it’s not even about our fear of judgment or failure when we don’t pursue our goals. It’s more about our sense of unworthiness that has us convinced that it can’t possibly be us to achieve something great. My question is, why not? Why not you?
Is there someone you admire, someone that’s living the life you’d like to be living? What do you think the difference between them and you would be? The only difference between you and that person you admire is in the way they think about themselves. The way they think YES! Why not me.
I know. It would be easier if it were more complicated because then you could always use that as an excuse. But until we see ourselves as worthy we will never be able to believe, why not me?
Insisting that other people change, or waiting for other people to change is a form of denial. It’s a denial of the reality that the only thing we can change is ourselves.
What’s interesting is that the more we insist that it’s the other people that need to change the more it’s true that it’s we that need to change. So much easier and less scary to put the onus on the other person though, isn’t it?
Generosity of spirit is a wonderful thing to cultivate because the more generous we can be in our praise, in our kindness, in our consideration, the more we amplify our own sense of abundance. Lack, under these conditions, gains no traction.
Have you ever tried to ride a bike while it’s still being put together? Sounds crazy right? And clearly won’t work. But that’s how we sometimes go about trying to change. We go ahead and continue to engage in the behaviour or make the same decisions while simultaneously trying to think or do something different. It just won’t work.
Sometimes we just need to stop. And stop not just the behaviour but more importantly, stop making the decisions that lead to the behaviour we want to change. Change actually requires for us to stand still for a minute and not do anything. To see real change we need to think and act from a completely different perspective and that requires stillness, thoughtfulness, and letting our intuition guide us.
We are meant to make a dent in the Universe during the short time we occupy space on this planet. And while making a dent sounds like we need to do something huge and spectacular, don’t let that stop you from trying. A dent simply means leaving the world better than how we found it. For some that’s a call for huge and spectacular, for others, it’s raising caring compassionate kids, planting trees, being of service and living a life with integrity.
The thing to keep in mind is that the huge and spectacular things don’t start that way. Sometimes, the quiet small things take on a life of their own and grow bigger, deeper and more far reaching than we could ever have imagined. The key is to start, in our own small way to make a dent, to leave a mark, to declare our significance, to make this one and only time we have, matter.
Why is it that we are so quick to believe that we’re weaker than we really are? In every respect, whenever there’s even a possibility of something new crossing our path, the vast majority of us, run shrieking in the other direction.