BYPRODUCT

The life that we’re living has not happened by accident.  Our decisions and interpretations have shaped it into what we live today.  Accidents happen beyond our control.  Our life, therefore, cannot be a byproduct of an accident.

BECOMING

Our identity is born little by little.  It is handled by time and shaped by circumstance.  It’s the only way.  It takes time.  Consider that it is only when we’re on the ‘shady side of 50’ that we catch a glimpse, every now and again, of who we are becoming.

DISCOVERY

We could never hope to know ourselves if we’ve never paused to reflect on what it is that we need, want, desire. 

The best way to whittle that down is to pause and reflect on what we don’t want, are tired of, have had it with.

TIRED

Of understanding, of explaining, of running around in circles.

PRIMAL

Our family of origin is our primal place.  It’s where we were shaped, it’s where we learned about fear, shame and guilt.  It’s where we were formed and deformed.  It’s a place where we felt the most vulnerable, the most powerless, the most visceral struggle of life and death.

It is also the place we must return to if we ever hope to understand our adult life and how we are shaping it.

EDUCATION

Revelations come in crisis.

SERIAL KILLER

Fear doesn’t mess around, it is a serial killer.  It will try and kill any and all aspirations we may have.  Whether we're wanting to lose weight or write a novel, fear’s goal isn’t to wound or disable, it aims to kill.  In fact it kills with such vehemence and thoroughness that we’ll remember the fear so keenly we’ll think twice before even entertaining that idea again. Is it any wonder we stay stuck for such a long time.  Some of us for entire lifetimes. 

IT IS THE SERIAL KILLING OF OUR DREAMS AND ASPIRATIONS THAT IS THE MOST UNFORGIVABLE ASPECT OF FEAR.