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There are so many of us that feel unlovable. The feeling that if we didn’t have the parents we needed growing up,  haven’t attracted the right person, or the right circumstances into our lives, then it’s because we’re unlovable, unworthy.  The reality though is that our lovableness, our worthiness was baked into us at birth.  

While we may not feel our un-lovableness every single day, the symptoms of that deep buried hurt manifests in our destructive behaviours, in the decisions we make that don’t serve us, in the abusive company we keep that doesn’t miss an opportunity to confirm our dysfunctional view of how unlovable we truly are.  

The reality is that we wear our un-lovableness on our sleeves.  The footprints are scattered throughout our lives.  Not until we can disabuse ourselves of this lie we carry inside can we affect the change we want outside.

Martha Beck once again wraps it up nicely:

“You are lovable. Can you show me any baby in any nursery who isn't priceless? No. There's no such thing as a worthless newborn. And the essential value that was born into brand-new-baby you can never be extinguished. This means that even if you think you're being absolutely honest, believing yourself to be anything other than astonishing, incomparable, and infinitely precious makes you a habitual liar.”