Living our life with love and compassion doesn’t mean we become doormats. It comes down to knowing our boundaries.
A quick and dirty guide to knowing what your boundaries are, goes something like this:
- Stop doing things that make you feel bad
- Do more of the things that make you feel good
Simple right? But not easy. Our culture confuses us with mixed messages. For example, #1. Stop doing things that make you feel bad, doesn’t mean that you stop doing things you know you need to do to grow and be responsible for your life. It doesn’t mean stop when things get uncomfortable and challenging.
It’s the same with #2 Do more of the things that make you feel good, doesn’t mean being irresponsible with our behaviour. Doing things that jeopardize our health for example, or doing things that make us feel good in the moment but have awful repercussions in the long term.
Boundaries are about being responsible for our life, for our behaviour and respecting others to take responsibility for their life and their behaviour. Boundaries are crossed when one or the other isn’t doing that.
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