ASKING

If you ask, people will invariable step up and deliver.  Our biggest mistake is that we expect people to ‘DIVINE’ our wants and needs -- and most people are just too busy navel gazing to see that you’re expecting them to read their mind.   So we don't ask, we fume, we get resentful.

Expecting people to DIVINE lets YOU off the hook because having to ask someone for help, or for support, or whatever, would necessitate some introspection on your part.  You may have to get clear about what you're asking and why you’re asking it (I feel needy, I feel vulnerable).  Or even worse, you may not get the support you asked for which would then open up a whole other can of worms. Why am I with someone who won't support me when I ask for it?

People avoid introspection like the plague because they’re worried that if they actually stumble on some insight they might have to do something about it.

EGADS!

I think it's more authentic and honest if we drop this macho/pride-filled crap and be straightforward. If you need some slack, ask for it.  If you need some reassurance, ask for it.  If you need a cheer, ask for it.  Get in touch with your needy side, your vulnerable side, we all have one and no, we don't reside there all the time -- that's the good news.