DISEASE

Are you afraid to speak up because even more than fearing you’ll be embarrassed you’re worried that people won’t like you?

Do you ignore your instinct telling you to walk away from an individual because they’re creeping you out, but you ignore it and stay?  Because they may not like it?

In a conversation are you hypervigilant to micro-changes in someone’s expression or body language and will lower your voice, or raise it, speak slower or faster, agree or disagree in keeping with those changes?

Do you start to act like an asshole, even though you know you’re not, but you act like one because you feel you need to mirror the person you’re talking to?

These examples, and many, many more will resonate for those of us who are afflicted with the disease to please.

It’s a deadly disease that kills any possibility we may have to be our authentic self.  Many people struggle with this disease because we don’t really know who we are, authentically.

It’s worth taking the time to find out. But it’s both the easiest and the hardest thing to do.  It requires, quiet, you see.  It requires time and space to simply sit still and listen.  Listen for that small voice that’s been trying so hard to be heard.  Listen for its whisper from the centre of our being.  

Coax it into speaking by asking: “Who am I?”  “What do I believe in?”  “What are my morals?”  “What are my boundries?”  “What things make me feel energized?” “What brings me joy?”  “Who makes me feel like I can do anything?”

Your authentic self is waiting to tell you.  Listen.

When we live our life from a place of authenticity, we will have found the cure to the disease to please.