A child’s healthy sense of self comes from feeling as though they are truly seen and heard, feeling as though they matter. As adults we understand this because in all likelihood we were raised in exactly the opposite way.
It’s a phantom realization that causes us a great deal of pain. Phantom because it is difficult to articulate, we just sense an unease, a disquiet, a low grade discomfort in the area of our self-esteem.
It is exquisitely painful stuff for us to carry around.
But this pain isn’t great because we are special, this pain is great because it is special to us.
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