MATCH

Goodness of fit is also a critical measure of whether as children, we received what we needed from our parents.

In other words, did what we need match with what our parents could give.

I don’t mean material things here.

Rather, were our parents able to nurture us in the manner in which we needed to be nurtured? 

All of the ways in which we were mis-matched with our parents, are all of the ways in which we created, out of necessity, mechanisms to bridge that gap.  Mechanisms that manifest as OCD, addiction, anxiety and depression.

Only by understanding this gap can we begin, as adults, to mitigate it, can we begin to nurture the fit we need.  It isn’t too late.