Is marriage still for the long-term? Just wondering because while people who want to get married are ‘talking’ about long term, their actions, what they’re doing, suggests that they’re in it for the short term.
What I mean is this. I’m amazed at how little people actually know about marriage. You’re probably thinking, well that’s because they haven’t done it so how are they supposed to know? Just like we’re supposed to know about the migration of the wildebeest in east Africa, read about it, watch a documentary, talk to people who’ve been there and seen it/done it for themselves.
What I find happens with marriage, is that although this frank type of information is out there, people tend to migrate toward the romantic, fuss-about-the-dress, happily ever after crap, and much of the focus of the romantic is actually on the WEDDING and not the MARRIAGE -- they're not the same thing. The former has very little to do with the latter.
If you really want to be married for the long term, in other words, if you're serious about getting married in the first place, talk to people who’ve been married for 50 years, that, like nothing else, will prepare you for what’s ahead.
If you can’t handle that truth, then do yourself a favor and don’t get married, until you can AND your partner can as well -- THAT'S REALLY IMPORTANT!
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