Bullying isn’t just about kids being cruel to one another, there are plenty of adult bullies running around. Although statistics show that 80% of adult bullying happens at work by a boss, you may be harboring a bully in your inner circle. How will you know? Listen to your gut, it doesn’t lie, then ask yourself:
Do you feel depleted or less than after spending even five minutes with them?
Does even a compliment feel backhanded when coming from them?
Do you feel like you’re walking on eggshells around them?
Do you feel as though you need to work hard just so you can get a sense that they like you?
If you answered yes to any of the above, the critical question to ask yourself is why you’re allowing your self-esteem to be eroded away by hanging around them? It’s not you and they’re not going to change.
Move on.
Very true. We're so busy thinking that it's something we're doing, that there's something wrong with US. Most bullies who masquerade as our friends aren't overt so it's especially important to listen to you gut.
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