This may come as a revelation but it truly is not your significant other’s job to understand what you’re going through. Just as it isn’t your job to understand what your significant other is going through.
More relationships suffer because couples don’t understand this basic premise. People think that just because you couple up you don’t need anyone else. Romantic notions of marriage and relationships just further cement this idea, but you’re begging for trouble if your immediate circle consists of just you and your partner - especially during difficult times.
It’s your compadres that understand your troubles, it’s them on whose shoulders you need to lean. You need several people who you can trust, with whom you can rant and vent, each bringing their own brilliant, personal perspective. One that is sympathetic, the other who is an awesome listener and then there’s the one who will not tell you want you want to hear, but will always tell you what you need to hear.
Your partner is too close for appropriate perspective and ultimately will be interested in whatever will keep peace in the house.
No, you need your compadres because it takes a village to keep a woman together primarily because it’s a village that she carries on her back.
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