SPECIAL

You’re putting up with abuse or just general maltreatment because:

• you’re special
• this relationship is special
• you’re the only one who understands him
• he’s the only one who understands you
• you’ve got no one else
• he’s only got you
• you’ve never felt so in love before
• this love is different
• this love is so intense
• he so clearly needs you
• he can’t live without you
• what will he do without you
• he seems so vulnerable, you can’t possibly leave him
• he doesn’t really mean it
• he doesn’t have coping skills
• he gets angry easily
• nobody understands him
• he’s special
• and on and on
• etc., etc.

PURE BULLSHIT.  I can tell you exactly how this is going to end up and so can a multitude of other people -- it’ll end up with you wasting time, wasting energy, wasting money and wasting your life.  The sooner you open your eyes, step out of denial and take personal responsibility the sooner you can find a relationship that is worthy of you. A relationship that is special in the healthiest, best and most appropriate way possible.

Yes, you can take offense at this and yes, it’s strong language but it’s meant to be. I’m not here to make you feel comfortable, I’m here to point out how incredibly dysfunctional your relationship is and how seriously you are messing up your life by refusing to take responsibility.  Now you know.  If you are offended by this language then you need to ask yourself what are you getting out of staying in this abusive relationship if you’re feeling so defensive?  I can tell you.  You’re offended because deep down inside your instincts are telling you I’m right and you’re scared -- you should be scared - you should be scared of staying in the relationship you’re in.

MAKE A PLAN.  STAY SAFE.  LEAVE.